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    Cohabitation Before Marriage
   And I disapprove it.
   There are many reasons why cohabitation before marriage is improper:
     1. Many people are not mature enough to take the responsibility of the consequences of cohabitation. Many people are too young and impulsive. It's possible that they do something regretful. And they don't know how to resolve it.
     2. No more enthusiasm and romance. Living together means you have to face the same person all the time. At first, you might be happy. Because you can see your lover all day long. But soon, you will be accustomed to the life style and be bored. And you have no time to get along with your friends. Because you get along with him. And you want to spend a lot of time with him. And it's easily to find your mate's bad habits if living together. If you two don't communicate well, and tolerate each other's bad habit, you two will break up soon.
     3. Face the dilemma when one wants to get married; while the other doesn't. Many people think marriage is a bound; while cohabitation is still free. They can enjoy the happiness and don't need to be limited. But in our society, we have to procreation. We are forced to get married and have babies. So if you two don't have the same idea on whether to get married, it will lead to a sad ending.
     4. There is no commitment and lack of identity. Many couples live together for a long time, but break up at the end. You have no assurance in this relationship. And you get nothing in the end. Not like marriage, if you divorce, you can get money.
     5.Many parents disapprove their children cohabit before marriage. Many children who cohabit with their mate are afraid to tell their parents the truth that they cohabit with their mates. They think it's an embarrassing scandal.

Premarital Cohabitation 1.2

     With the social atmosphere becomes opener, many people think that it is not a big deal to live together with their lovers. Cohabitation is a fleeting way to know a person. Because you spend most of time getting along with the same person, the relationship leaps and bounds. However, there are two sides of cohabitation. Before reaching a stable relationship, couples who live together are likely to have fights and break up at the end. Because they don't understand each other deeply, there must be many things which need communicating and coordinating. And these trivia consumes the imagination of romance which will be replaced by annoyance. If they don't reach an agreement, it will lead to a sad ending. 
     There are many reasons why cohabitation before marriage is improper:
     1. Many people are not mature enough to take the responsibility          of the consequences of cohabitation
     2. No more enthusiasm and romance
     3. Face the dilemma when one wants to get married while the              other doesn't
     4. There is no commitment lack of identity
     -from ''living together for love'', Yi- Xin Huang, published by Gao-Lin International AG
        

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xQA_8Dh9jYY

     

     According to the video, many parents think it is inappropriate to cohabit before marriage. And the children who have the experience of cohabitation are afraid to tell their parents the fact that they live with their boyfriends or girlfriends. In their opinion, parents will forbid them from living together certainly. And they think it is an embarrassing scandal to let other people know. How will others think about a girl who lives with her boyfriend? There must be lots of rumors and gossip. Her value might be lower. And it is harmful for a girl's chastity. Many people live with their lovers when they are in college. It seems common to live with whom we love and spend most of time with them. Nevertheless, collage students are not mature enough. They just turn into adults and learn to take responsibility. Both male and female are impulsive at this stage, it is possible that they do something regretful.
     What's more, I think couples living together are easily getting bored in a relationship. If cohabiting, couples will have much more time to get along with. At first, couples might be content with this kind of life style. They are like gums sticking all day long. They enjoy their own world without hanging out with their friends. But when time passes, their life will become exhausted. Facing the same person all the time makes the freshness and passion of love vanish rapidly. Eventually, they will find out that what remains in their world is only themselves. Living together means that you have to fit in each other's living habits. You and your mate come from different family, there must be many things which need to be adjusted and accommodated. You will gradually discover your mate's bad habits which make you intolerable. Not knowing how to dissolve the dilemma, you will destroy your relationship.

     Nowadays, more and more people live with lovers before marriage. Many couples have been cohabited for a long time and don't get married. Some couples even break up ultimately after cohabiting many years. Many people think marriage is a bound; while cohabitation is still free. They can enjoy the happiness and don't need to be limited. They are satisfied with current situation and have no desire to get married. The relationship will be stopped and make no progress. In our society, we have to take the responsibility of procreation. When people reach the marriageable age, they are forced to get married. If your mate just wants to cohabit and have no preparation for marriage, the discord will cause conflicts and even put the relationship to an end.  

Premarital Cohabitation

     When this semester began, my roommate stayed overnight at  his boyfriend's house sometimes. And it occurred to me that whether living together with the mate is appropriate. As far as I am concerned, I oppose the idea of premarital cohabitation even though I have boyfriend. However, after thinking deeply, I find out that I agree with cohabitation if the couple make up their mind to live together for the rest of life. So I consider that it is fine to cohabitation after engagement.
      Many people may live with their girlfriend or boyfriend when they are in college. I have heard a lot of examples, and even my roommate is one of them. It seems common to live with people whom we love and spend all of our time to be with them. However, you and your mate are not mature enough. You just turn into adults and learn to take responsibility. Both of you are still teenagers and might be impulsive. It is possible that you do something regretful. What's more, how will other people judge you after knowing you live with your mate? There must be many rumors and gossips.  Living together is a big step in a relationship. It is so important that we should think twice before making decision. Many couples live together just after in relationship. They even don't understand each other very well. It is likely to have fights at tiny things such as habits of daily life. These quarrels consume the sweet feeling of love and become burdens as time passes. The freshness of love will soon be replaced by annoyance. Since cohabitation is such an important issue, we all have to think thoroughly in case of doing something can't be saved.