Not
mature enough
Many college students and even high school
students once they are in the relationship, they cohabit with each other, even they
don’t understand each other deeply. But they are still teenagers and they are
impulsive. Their mind is not mature enough. So it is easily for them to do
something regretful like pregnancy. And they don’t know how to resolve it
and take the responsibility.
Living together means that you have to fit in
each other's living habits. You and your mate come from different family, there
must be many things which need to be adjusted and accommodated. Maybe your
mate's bad habits make you intolerable. If you don’t learn to communicate and accept it, you will break up soon.
No
more romance
Couples living together are easily
getting bored. At first, couples might be content with this life style. Because
they have much more time to get along with each other. They enjoy their own world
without other people. But
when time passes, their life will become exhausted. Every day you come home,
you face the same person. You two having dinner, watching TV or do something else together. It becomes a routine. You are not excited when you see him. And
the freshness of love will vanish.
OK, let's watch a video. According to the video, we can know most parents are opposed their children to cohabit with their lovers. And the children who have the
experience of cohabitation, they hide the truth and don't tell their parents. Because they think their parents are conventional and cannot accept the concept of
cohabitation. But parents care about their kids. If you are parents, will you allow your children to cohabit with other
people? I think it's no.
OK then cohabitation can decrease the desire of marriage and increase the rate of divorce.
Why it decrease the desire of marriage?
Cohabitation can
make couples enjoy the happiness of marriage and don't be limited. They
don't have to go through the responsibility in marriage. It will make people
think that marriage is troublesome and not beneficial at all. So couples stop
at this stage and make no progress. And what's more,women usually see
cohabitation as a step toward marriage; but men don't think so. They only see it as a way to test
a relationship and don't want to make commitment.
And why cohabitation increase the rate of divorce?
My resource is from Meg Jay. He is a clinic
psychologist. And he wrote The Downside of Cohabiting Before Marriage. Many
people agree cohabitation before marriage is because couples can know each
other deeply and quickly. They believe that it is good for a relationship.
However, the writer disagree the belief. One of his patients is Jennifer. She had
been cohabiting with her boyfriend for more than 4years. And they decided to
get married. But after 1year,Jennifer wanted to get divorce. She is the victim
of cohabitation effect. What is cohabitation effect. Couples who
cohabit before marriage tend to be less satisfied with their marriages than
couples who do not. These negative outcomes are called cohabitation effect.
And the writer also mentioned The risk lies in cohabitation itself-cohabitation is a problem and has
nothing to with individual characteristics like religion, education or
politics. The risks of cohabitation might be that couples live together
gradually. From dating to sleep over to sleep over a lot and finally cohabit. And the writer described the process as a slope. Most lovers said it just happened bypassing
talking about why they want to live together and what it would mean.
Conclusion
Cohabitation is not the assurance of a happy
and wonderful marriage. And it is not a good way for every
relationship. It might weaken the faith that marriage is a
permanent combination. So, think twice before cohabitation.
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