It is a writing which is entitled Men and Women Often Expect Different Things When They Move In Together. And it is written by W. Brad Wilcox who is a sociologist. He suggests that men are more likely than women to be not "completely committed" to their partners. Cohabiting young adults have significantly lower levels of commitment than their married peers. This study's findings about low commitment and the gender mismatch in cohabiting adults' expectations suggest three cautionary notes for young adults considering moving in together:
Talk about the future. Couples, but especially women, should be aware that their partner may not be committed to a common future. A long-term cohabiting relationship may prove to be an obstacle, rather than a springboard, to many young people's goal of getting married and starting a family. Defining the commitment in the relationship is a matter best addressed before cohabitation.
Get on the same page. Couples are more likely to flourish when they share common, clearly communicated goals for their relationship. But now different people see cohabitation variously as a courtship phase, an economical way to save on rent, a place for convenient sex, a preparation to getting serious, or an alternative to marriage. Young adults often end up living with someone who doesn't share their relational goals. Couples considering living together would be wise to talk through the goals they want to accomplish in that move, and make sure they are on the same page.
Don't slide into marriage. Cohabiting couples are in for trouble when they "slide" into cohabitation and then marriage rather than "decide" to take the same steps. Many couples begin living together without clear expectations, common values, or a shared commitment to one another. And after a time, some of these couples get married, in part because friends, family, and they themselves think it's the logical next step. But instead of purposely deciding to deepen their commitment to one another, the couples who slide into cohabitation and marriage without common values and a shared sense of commitment, are more likely to divorce.
The video wants to let people know the truth of cohabitation. According to my annotation 3, the reason why many people agree cohabitation is that it can make couples understand each other better. However, there are a lot of things which we don't know behind cohabitation. These are called facts. And the video gives six aspects.
First, cohabitation does not necessarily lead to marriage. In fact, 40% of cohabiting couples break up within 5 years.
Cohabitation increases divorce rate.
Cohabiting parents are 170% more likely to break up.
Children who have cohabiting parents are more likely to have emotional and social problems, including drug use, depression, and dropping out of school.
Children cohabiting household are at least three times more likely to be physically, sexually, or emotionally abused than children from intact marriages between biological parents.
The statistic says in the USA, over 40% of children live in cohabiting homes.
The truth is that cohabitation is creating unstable family.
First, cohabitation does not necessarily lead to marriage. In fact, 40% of cohabiting couples break up within 5 years.
Cohabitation increases divorce rate.
Cohabiting parents are 170% more likely to break up.
Children who have cohabiting parents are more likely to have emotional and social problems, including drug use, depression, and dropping out of school.
Children cohabiting household are at least three times more likely to be physically, sexually, or emotionally abused than children from intact marriages between biological parents.
The statistic says in the USA, over 40% of children live in cohabiting homes.
The truth is that cohabitation is creating unstable family.
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