2013年10月16日 星期三

Premarital Cohabitation 1.2

     With the social atmosphere becomes opener, many people think that it is not a big deal to live together with their lovers. Cohabitation is a fleeting way to know a person. Because you spend most of time getting along with the same person, the relationship leaps and bounds. However, there are two sides of cohabitation. Before reaching a stable relationship, couples who live together are likely to have fights and break up at the end. Because they don't understand each other deeply, there must be many things which need communicating and coordinating. And these trivia consumes the imagination of romance which will be replaced by annoyance. If they don't reach an agreement, it will lead to a sad ending. 
     There are many reasons why cohabitation before marriage is improper:
     1. Many people are not mature enough to take the responsibility          of the consequences of cohabitation
     2. No more enthusiasm and romance
     3. Face the dilemma when one wants to get married while the              other doesn't
     4. There is no commitment lack of identity
     -from ''living together for love'', Yi- Xin Huang, published by Gao-Lin International AG
        

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xQA_8Dh9jYY

     
     According to the video, many parents think it is inappropriate to cohabit before marriage. And the children who have the experience of cohabitation are afraid to tell their parents the fact that they live with their boyfriends or girlfriends. In their opinion, parents will forbid them from living together certainly. And they think it is an embarrassing scandal to let other people know. How will others think about a girl who lives with her boyfriend? There must be lots of rumors and gossip. Her value might be lower. And it is harmful for a girl's chastity. Many people live with their lovers when they are in college. It seems common to live with whom we love and spend most of time with them. Nevertheless, collage students are not mature enough. They just turn into adults and learn to take responsibility. Both male and female are impulsive at this stage, it is possible that they do something regretful.
     What's more, I think couples living together are easily getting bored in a relationship. If cohabiting, couples will have much more time to get along with. At first, couples might be content with this kind of life style. They are like gums sticking all day long. They enjoy their own world without hanging out with their friends. But when time passes, their life will become exhausted. Facing the same person all the time makes the freshness and passion of love vanish rapidly. Eventually, they will find out that what remains in their world is only themselves. Living together means that you have to fit in each other's living habits. You and your mate come from different family, there must be many things which need to be adjusted and accommodated. You will gradually discover your mate's bad habits which make you intolerable. Not knowing how to dissolve the dilemma, you will destroy your relationship.
     Nowadays, more and more people live with lovers before marriage. Many couples have been cohabited for a long time and don't get married. Some couples even break up ultimately after cohabiting many years. Many people think marriage is a bound; while cohabitation is still free. They can enjoy the happiness and don't need to be limited. They are satisfied with current situation and have no desire to get married. The relationship will be stopped and make no progress. In our society, we have to take the responsibility of procreation. When people reach the marriageable age, they are forced to get married. If your mate just wants to cohabit and have no preparation for marriage, the discord will cause conflicts and even put the relationship to an end.  

12 則留言:

  1. At first, I want to suggest you to separate two annotations apart because it looks a little weird in the whole article.
    Second, I think only the girls couldn't say out loud about their cohabitation. The boys never have to be bothered about this kind of things. And that's really unfair for girls.
    Third, I don't think the girls in the video are the whole face of the cohabitation. Programs always exaggerate things just to scare people. And there is one more things that we should understand, marriage is a sacred thing that we have to take many things into consideration. That's why we use cohabitation as a way to help us to make decision instead of thinking cohabitation is the only way.

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    1. couples who live together are "likely" to have fights and break up at the end
      ->likely can replaced by easily
      "Her" value might be lower.
      -> "her" appeared a little unexpectedly, u can use "this kind of girl"
      And I think you can shorten your description about the freshness of cohabitation, it was clear enough.

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  2. I do approve that it is not appropriate for immature couple to cohabit, since it is very possible that they would do something regretful. However, would cohabitation be a better way for mature couple who are considering getting married to know each other better before they get married? You mentioned that cohabitation would decrease the romance and discover each other's bad habits. Would it be more appropriate of they discover each other's true self before getting married, before everything is too late?

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  3. I can see that you were very nervous when you presented your annotation. You used "many" so often, and I think this is what you can improve. And it is very good and organized that you list the evidence of your point.

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  4. 10/24 presentation review:
    You make great points in presentation. It is clear and easy to understand. I have few questions about your presentation. Can you explain the society attitude about marriage, where the Dink are now popular with young people?

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  5. At some point I really agree with you. I think your own standpoint is not clear in the last paragraph.
    We still need to concern about the feelings of our parents.

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  6. Cohabitation in someway really improve the lovership between a couple. But without the assurance of marriage, cohabitation will have its side- effect that we may easily break up with our lovers due to several conflicts. As a consequence, I agree to what you express today.

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  7. The reasons you list for not supporting cohabitation before marriage are clear and easy to understand. Maybe you can add some examples to make your presentation longer next time.

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  8. There is a point in your presentation I felt a little confused. That is you said if premarital cohabitation breaks up, then they will get no money, but getting marred can. I don't think it is a main point why most of people are against cohabitation.

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  9. I was unfamiliar with this topic at first. But, the reasons and examples you pointed out help me understand it clearly. I hope you can provide more cohabitation cases except those from TV program.

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  10. Your standpoint and idea about your issue is great, and easy to understand. However, if you can practice not to always look your handout, your representation will be better and perfect.

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  11. Your presentation was clear to be understood. But in your annotation, I find something unreasonable for me. In the last paragraph, you typed that ''The relationship will be stopped and make no progress.'' You focus on marriage part and think that if the couple remain in cohabitation instead of marriage, a actual promise protected by law, there will be no progress. But I do not think so. I think cohabitation can make them understand each other more deeply and improve their relationship.
    And maybe at the end you should add a paragraph to restate your viewpoints as a conclusion and remind readers that you disagree cohabitation.

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