When this semester began, my roommate stayed overnight at his boyfriend's house sometimes. And it occurred to me that whether living together with the mate is appropriate. As far as I am concerned, I oppose the idea of premarital cohabitation even though I have boyfriend. However, after thinking deeply, I find out that I agree with cohabitation if the couple make up their mind to live together for the rest of life. So I consider that it is fine to cohabitation after engagement.
Many people may live with their girlfriend or boyfriend when they are in college. I have heard a lot of examples, and even my roommate is one of them. It seems common to live with people whom we love and spend all of our time to be with them. However, you and your mate are not mature enough. You just turn into adults and learn to take responsibility. Both of you are still teenagers and might be impulsive. It is possible that you do something regretful. What's more, how will other people judge you after knowing you live with your mate? There must be many rumors and gossips. Living together is a big step in a relationship. It is so important that we should think twice before making decision. Many couples live together just after in relationship. They even don't understand each other very well. It is likely to have fights at tiny things such as habits of daily life. These quarrels consume the sweet feeling of love and become burdens as time passes. The freshness of love will soon be replaced by annoyance. Since cohabitation is such an important issue, we all have to think thoroughly in case of doing something can't be saved.
You say that you oppose the idea of premarital cohabitation but you also say you agree with cohabitation if the couple make up their mind to live together for the rest of life. It's kind of contradictory because you should stand on your point firmly and argue it.
回覆刪除And actually i disagree that these quarrels consume the sweet feeling of love and become burdens as time passes as i do not think couple would avoid quarrels by not living together and i think without quarrels, they will not really understand each other.
I think that you had picked an interesting topic to discuss. It is a topic that will totally grab our attention, especially for people of our age. However, I think you did not clearly mark out your point. At one point you say that you opposed to the idea of premarital cohabitation but later you somehow said something that you agree with it. Also I think it will be better if you add more arguments and examples to your topic to make it more persuasive.
回覆刪除I think that you should state clear that you are supporting the "Cohabitation after engagement" idea, because throughout the entire article I was confused by what you are trying to support, is it "Premarital Cohabitation" or "Cohabitation after engagement". I think your next article should clarify your argument and make a more distinguished explanation for these two terms.
回覆刪除Because the main point of siou-jyun's article is that cohabitation can help couple understand each other more. Therefore, I think you can propose other methods that can also let boyfriend and girlfriend understand each other instead of living together. This will make both of your articles have a connection.
回覆刪除I don't agree with one of your opinion that the society don't allow girls to live with their lovers without engagement. However, it is a open society nowadays so we should learn to accept girls to have a right to live with their lovers. There shouldn't be rules to restrict girls but ignoring the boys. The parents' generation couldn't accept it because they didn't know what does the sex equality mean. But we did learned, so we should throw our prejudice away.
回覆刪除I agree with you that there must be many rumors about premarital cohabitation. But I think you should make it clear, like what those people will think. What is the main point why you think most people will judge them? And I think this problem is not just about the freshness between the couple, it also includes many real problems, like what their family will do if they know.
回覆刪除However, I don't agree that couple will fight for tiny things because they live together. You think if they decide to get engaged, then premarital cohabitation is accepted. But engagement cannot solve this problem, it cannot make people neglect the point they cannot tolerate, so I think the fight about this situation is inevitable.
Rumors is really horrible. Besides, we are still young, if something regretful happens, everything will be complicated. However, as you said, if the couple has decided to get married, premarital cohabitation is necessary. Because it can let them get used to each other. Although I agree with you, if you can give more examples about your standpoint will be better.
回覆刪除Your point is not clear. I suggest you just state directly that you support the idea " premarital cohabitation after engagement. You said you don't agree with premarital cohabitation first and then agree with it after engagement later ,which confuses me. And then since you choose premarital cohabitation after engagement, you may need such an example.
回覆刪除I have to say i agree with what you are talking about. Although the world had changes a lot and has become more unrestrained, there are still some ideas and opinions of others which are unshakable. we are unable to determine what others might think of us. Besides, we are all young and immature, it would be too late if something regretful actually happens. however, there are things i would like to ask for your opinion. Is it really appropriate to mind others opinions than our true happiness. i mean, if a couple thinks they are truly in love(though most of the couple would think of that at the instant), should they still care about what others opinions or should they make their own decision of what to manage their life?
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回覆刪除I think the first paragraph makes me confused about whether you support premarital cohabitation or not. In the second paragraph, I think the couple living together can make them know each other quickly, including both people's merits and disadvantages.
回覆刪除You and your partner have chosen an interesting topic to discuss. Since you have such a long article about your thoughts, I think it will be better to have a conclusion to declare your statement at last.
回覆刪除I think you can state a more clear standpoint.
回覆刪除And I agree with your point that cohabitation right now is too early. To be honest, even at the age of ours is still to early to determine things like this. Look before you leap and don't consider ourselves are mature enough.